Look at the one right beside youIt is very common that some people spend their time researching and finding the "right person". Zen suggests that we stop running and see this place right before our eyes.
Take a look at a person who is near you in your life now. Whether a friend, a potential partner or more, notice how you push it. Stop doing that. Allow yourself two to be together in the way you are.Take your relationship, as it is.
Do the same thing tomorrow with someone else. This does not mean that you consider marrying anyone who crosses your path have. It's just an exercise to see how many times you seem to those who may already published in your world because you expect employees to the "right" to have. But the "right", you can be with everyone, plus you can open the very real possibilities of this.
Stop playing with loveSo many singles complain that they are not loved. The reason for this can be quite simple. They are so busy playing that potential partners never know who they really are.
What role do you play or play games in relationships? What role do you play waiting to take over the other? Chances are, you have a pretty clear pattern, but the question is: Are you in love with the person or the role it plays? If you are unsure of your roles, turn around for a while. Try playing different roles. Experience playing with someone on the roles that you are not used. Notice how it feels.
The goal is to become aware of the difference between who you are and the roles you play. Finally, you will be able to let go of the roles and just be who you are - it's a Zen state of being. Who you are is always lovable and beautiful. It is the role that get in the way.
Let partners come and goA major obstacle to a life of love is the tendency to hold on. We collect and cling to each other to prevent the freedom of love to grow on its own. Zen asks us to let go.
If someone enters your life, let it come. Say hello to the person who he is. Enjoy what it is that he does, even if only for a short period.
When it's time for someone far away, let him go. Do not turn the person who leaves an experience of rejection, loss or abandonment. Realize that his departure has nothing to do with you. It is simply time for him to go.
Do it with you. Let them come and go in life, and not get caught in unnecessary chains. The more you free yourself and others, the more you fall in love.
Put your baggage down.Many believe that love is not possible if all their demands are met. However, these same people are always surprised when they discover that these claims do not lead to happiness. Instead, the requirements are just obstacles to falling in love.
What are your "must haves" for relations? If you are unsure, write the list and take a good look at him. Realize that this baggage that can take away from all kinds of people and opportunities.Your luggage may you fear, rigid and closed, which is available to you right now. Zen asks us to get rid of old debts.
You can try one of these requirements disappear for a day.Notice how you feel without it. (Remember, you can cancel at any time.) Then try it on another day. How often you do this, you will notice that things you thought really of vital importance for your life were on their way. The more you do, the more light and happy you feel. Moreover, this openness allows all sorts of new people, opportunities and situations begin to come your way. They will welcome them in your luggage were down.
Give giftsGiving and receiving are the heart of every relationship. If we are in love, it is never a problem. We naturally give and are happy with everything offered in return. When opened, means more to go, start taking this attitude and, of course.
What gifts you give others in relationships? What do you expect in return? Now take a moment to consider what you give to someone else. Then give him. To do this, every day. Each day give something else. It need not be complicated or expensive - or even a material object - just something to add to his day. Then do this with all sorts of different people. Zen is silent on how this kind of thing, and without fanfare and without hope of return.
Do it with you. Take a moment to understand what kind of gift you want. Simple examples are on a walk in the park, buying a new lipstick or spending time with someone you care. Now give yourself a gift every day.
Although this exercise is simple, it is extremely powerful. It can run on any day in your relationships. If you give, remember not to get something in return (not even a smile or thank you). Then you call giving without expectations, without requirements. By living with this opening, generous spirit, come all sorts of other gifts for you of course.
Make friends with yourselfMany people say they are alone, even if they have a partner with them. This is simply because they have not yet made friends with themselves. After Zen, once you get to be with yourself and appreciate what you are on a personal level, it is impossible to be more solitary.
Make friends with yourself to spend time you realize who you are.Accepting all parts of you. Judge not, and reject what is happening inside. Be still and look in.
Start with this exercise. Pay attention to your breath and just notice what is happening. Whatsoever. Accept it, and return to the breath. Understand that, breath for breath, with the cry, you are perfect just as you are. You can choose from these natural self-healing in relationships? You can choose to display the relationships with those who want and appreciate what you have?Create positive change in your life - and relationships - can begin with something as simple as taking off shoes.
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